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Wooing, flattery, hiding certain flaws-it comes with the territory during the first few weeks of dating. But let’s face it, after the gloss on the surface fades, our true colors shine through and, well, we’re not as perfect as we might have pretended to be. 

And even when we aren’t dating, most of us still change who we are. We dye our hair; wear different color contacts, heck we might even wear spanx to hide that tiny bulge in our tummy. We’re all guilty of it. And we’re all white lying from the get go. 

As we lower our guards in hopes of sustaining and maintaining a new, healthy relationship, we also start to show our hidden persona. Maybe we aren’t as tidy as we acted and we might even (dare I say it?) burp after every other sip of soda.

Is it our fault we grew up in a society where women are viewed as always having to be matronly? Are we expected to look and act perfect all of the time? For some of us, it’s what we believed growing up. And we’re in fear of disappointing the male persuasion.  So why do we hide the person we are when first meeting a potential mate? It’s rather simple.

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